Monday, January 25, 2010

Women and independence

Women who are independent lament that they are always single. Well is that independence a fassad for not wanting to get too close to someone? I wonder this whole thing of not needing a man stuff. I mean yes being self sufficient is good but being tough and strong are typically me traits. I not saying women cannot have that. If they project that strenght they will end up with a mommas boy. A tough man will not be attracted to a tough woman. Opposites attract. Most men, me included, lime to be the strong one in the relationship. Every relationship has a dominate partner and a submissive one. It just works that way. Moreover, from the caveman days men have been hunters and gatherers. If a woman can hunt and gather why would she need a man.
The opposite holds true too for men. We need to be more open and emotional to attract a mate. We have to show strength but if we don't show the emotional side we will be single for a long time.

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Thursday, January 7, 2010

Misunderstood?

So I lay here in bed not feeling better after two days of antibiotics and decongestant. I woke up with watery eyes, scratchy throat and runny nose. I am reluctant to take the day off because work is social to me I like the interaction.
Most everyone else at work has a spouse and kids. A day off for them means time with them. Moreover, there is another human being around. With me there is not. I am tired of typing on the iPhone and am logging on to the laptop to finish this.

OK. This is easier and much better ergonomically.

What I am trying to say is that when others get sick, they have someone there to take care of them or at the very least be there. I know I hear of the mom in the family getting sick and having to fend for herself to get better. The kids and spouse are kind of there but are not "caretakers". Well at least they have someone there. I do not have that luxury. It may sound morbid to others, but I have nobody, so should something happen to me, who knows how long it will take someone to find me. It is my reality.

At 45, my body is changing. When you reach a certain age, you realize that you are not immortal or at the very least that you are going to die sometime. At this age your body breaks down easier as it is a very normal natural progression of aging. It is what it is as I say.

So, when I say I don't want to take the day off, that is actually better for me than being at home by myself for reasons I just described. Add to that, working from home is a happier work experience for me than being in the office. I find having my four legged kids around very comforting. They are way more comforting than the human beings at work.

I just wish there was an easy succinct way for me to say, "I am not taking the day off, just going back to the doctor, because I am not getting better and I need the socialization of work to help me get better." AND that they would understand that. I know I need rest. Everyone else has people around to help out. I don't. My house doesn't get cleaned if I don't clean it. My laundry does not get done if I don't do it and so on.

So because of that, I feel misunderstood. I just wish that people would see that. I wish they would see why I am so successful at work is because frankly at this point in time of my life, it is all I got. Yes, I have friends, but they are not here. I have no girlfriend at the time probably more because of choice than lack of options.

For all zero of you who read this, remember to put yourself in others shoes before giving advice. Understand where that other person is coming from. This way they won't be misunderstood.